This is what I’m learning, and I’ll share it with you: Abandon yourself to God. Praise Him for every frustration, every delay in plans, every good thing and every difficult thing. Woohooo! He is dang Awesome and He will fill you with such joy that when you are playing the drums and at other times, you will be caught up in praise and lifted to the throne room of God.

God bless you, Drew.

-amanda

Basically English bastardized it in the 1800s and gave it a second meaning that became popular around 1850.

I agree though, we need a more specific word for “to purposely not pay attention to”. I suggest perhaps “to disinterest”. As in, “he disinterests himself to what i was saying” maybe a bit too wordy. Or “binglop”. That could be good. As in, “man, why does she keep binglopping me??”

This is a very thoughtful post. I, too, read the book and have a different feeling about it. I read it about a year ago and, although I didn’t agree with everything he had to say, overall found it very refreshing.

I feel like the jist of the book was about getting obsessive girls to stop obsessing so much. It’s easy for girls to become so anxious trying to figure out “if he likes me” and even convincing ourselves that he MUST like me because of that thing he did. And then when he doesn’t call for four days, we make excuses for him and then hang on to the dream.

I think the point is that “Yes, you’re great, and he might be great, too. But if he doesn’t call, or doesn’t ask you out, or doesn’t commit, then he’s probably just not that into you. And that’s ok. It’s alright to keep looking.”

I liked this because it took so much pressure off, somehow. I became much more relaxed when it came to dating. I let things happen, and didn’t get upset when some things didn’t.

However, I think sometimes I still struggle to find the balance. When things do start to get serious, there is a point when “he’s just not that into you” doesn’t work. There is too much invested and a hard conversation might need to happen.

So anyway. I see your side. But overall, I think the book was encouraging to girls who’ve mostly felt the way I have: wondering, obsessing, about if the guy likes me or not.

Furthermore, and relating to my own thoughts, I’ve come to believe that marriage isn’t about having a perfect person that meets everything on the “list.” Who cares about the list? You can get by with much much less than the list, because quite frankly, we are all lacking. All you really need is someone who loves you, complements you, and commits to you. You marry by choice, afterall.

That is all.

Just sayin’. Not all women are living in crazy land.

For other truths, please see that second book you mentioned.

http://hoppfull.wordpress.com/2009/09/06/hope-for-the-everyman/